God in 'sex & the city' - part 3

in my final installment, carrie calls her boyfriend to apologize after.

Okay, well, um … I just wanted to say that I’m sorry. This is hard. 

We’re going to run into stuff that’s hard. That’s why I was trying to help. 

Well, I know. I know that. But if you start helping me, and then I get used to having that help …

Yeah …

Well … No good can come of that. I mean, then what happens when, you know, you’re not around one day? 

Where am I going?

Well I don’t know. You could be out of town. Or you could be busy. Or things fall apart. We could fall apart.

I know that.

Well then what?

Then I guess we’d be a couple of sad Macs.

*Laughs*
After all, computers crash, people die, relationships fall apart. The best we can do is breathe, and reboot. And when that fails, a little gizmo called a zip drive can provide a surprising amount of comfort. So can a boyfriend, if you can learn to let him.

one of the biggest lessons i’ve been learning lately is that hard stuff and change is okay. sure, that seems like a no-brainer, but when you haven’t had the greatest experiences of dealing with the hard stuff in relationships, the idea of facing it and walking through it and coming out on the other side still together is pretty revolutionary. and when every change felt like your world being turned upside down, it takes a while to understand that different isn’t bad ... it’s just different.

if you’re in relationship with people (aka if you’re alive), then hard stuff is going to happen and things aren’t going to stay the same forever. but that doesn’t mean you should avoid relationship for the sake of avoiding hard stuff or change. relationship involves letting others in and being willing to accept their help. it takes a lot of trust to put your hand into the hand of another. that means learning to walk through the hard stuff together. and it also means being okay if they’re not there someday, for whatever reason, to hold your hand anymore.

neither one is easy. but it makes us stronger.

it makes us stronger to rely on others.

two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: if either of them falls down, one can help the other up. but pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. but how can one keep warm alone? though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. (ecclesiastes 4: 9-12)

and it makes us stronger to have a firm foundation in times of change.

God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their surging. (psalm 46: 1-2)

so breathe. reboot. remember your foundation. and make the most out of the moments that you have.